Finding someone to be in a relationship is actually quite easy.
Finding someone to be in a relationship that actually fulfills you,
however, is a different story. So how do you find a relationship that
truly fulfills your needs and desires? Setting your priorities straight
and having realistic expectations will help guide you into the right
direction in finding the relationship you have always wanted. Before you
can do that though, you need to make sure that, you feel fulfilled on
your own first.
So many people end up in
relationships that do not fulfill them because they are entering the
relationship with the wrong expectations and for the wrong reasons. A
big example of this is someone entering a relationship as a way to feel
complete. Many people feel unsatisfied with themselves and their lives,
and believe that someone else will be able to fill in that gap for them.
Placing the responsibility for your happiness on someone else is
unrealistic, and will only result in disappointments in the
relationship. You also need to acknowledge and accept the fact that
there is no such thing as “the perfect relationship” and that there will
be issues that will require teamwork and compromise.
Most
people have the idea that if a relationship is truly happy and meant to
be, then there never will be any problems and should not require so
much work - it should just be happy. Well, if this is how you view
relationships, then it is time to change your way of thinking before you
set yourself up for more painful reality checks. If you are interested
in finding a person to build a strong loving relationship with, the best
thing to do would be to start by focusing on yourself first - and make
sure that you have your life sorted out, before deciding to share it
with someone else. Majority of people would read this say “ of course,
it’s common sense” and while this may be true, people still
enter relationship with unrealistic expectation, wrong reasons or
before making sure they are fulfilled on their own first.
So
if you feel you are ready to be in a serious, committed relationship,
do your self a favor and take it one step at a time. Review the
relationship you have with yourself first and make sure that you are
truly happy with yourself and where you stand currently in your life.
Ask yourself why you feel the need to be in a relationship, what you are
prepared to invest into it, as well as what you are expecting from your
partner. Sorting this out will help you understand your relationship
goals and will help you understand what it is you need to look for in a
person when trying to find a loving partner to share your life with.
Attraction
is naturally going to be important to you, and it should be - for no
relationship can really start or survive unless both partners are
genuinely attracted to each other.
Attraction, however, is not enough and before you decide to jump into a
relationship with a person you are strongly attracted to, you are going
to make sure that he or she also has the other important qualities that
you are looking for in a partner. This is why you need to take it
slowly and not rush into anything, just because you feel strongly
attracted to someone.
There are many cases where people
jump into a relationship based mainly on attraction, with an assumption
(or hope) that the person will end up having all the qualities. When
time passes and the person realizes that their partner is not who they
thought or hoped they were, they are already deeply involved and often
look at their partners as who they wished they were, rather than who
they really are - and end up stuck in an unfulfilling relationship.
Therefore,
the key to finding a fulfilling relationship is to never lose direction
and to always remind yourself of
what your real needs are, so that you do not end up in a relationship
that does not meet your standards. There is a difference between
compromising certain differences, and settling for a
less-than-satisfying relationship. You also need to decide exactly what
you are prepared to offer another person, so that you do not end up an
overwhelming relationship that you were not ready for. Once you
understand your real needs and the qualities you are seeking and
understand your reasons for wanting to be in a relationship, you will
know exactly what to look for…and will not get trapped dating anyone who
does not fulfill you.
Sincerely, it is my
desire that you find a fulfilled relationship and I encourage you to
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Attracting And Keeping The Man of Your Dream! Sure you will agree with
that there are numerous secrets you need to know so as to attract and
keep that man you dream of. Mark the
two words there - attracting the man in your life is not enough - you
got to keep him for the rest of your life.
The
main problem here, and the thing that can stand on your way, is that
Men are not easy to understand. And when you find a good man, he doesn't
come with an "instructional manual".
This
situation is most dangerous when you meet a really Great Man (the man
you love so much), but you don't know how to attract him or keep him.
Let's face it, great men are hard to find... and when you do find one,
you can't afford to lose him because you made a dumb mistake. You can't
afford to throw away a good six months, a year... or even LONGER... and
risk losing what could be a valuable relationship... just because you
didn't know how to handle a particular situation.
Well,
there is some good news here... I personally believe that there is
something you can do about it. You can learn
how to understand men and get them to be open up and understand you.
You can learn how to attract that great man, and how to keep him.
And
how do I know this? Because I am a man. And I've been in all the
situations I just mentioned to you... from the other side. I've seen it
from a man's perspective. I've been in those difficult "places" in
dating, relationships, and love.
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